Happily Single

Good morning!

I finally read the book my youngest daughter got me for Christmas, The Single Woman.

It’s an excellent book that is very well written on how to help you discover who you are and stop looking outside yourself for your worth.

Part I is entitled,  Happily Single. It’s about refusing to let your life be defined by your relationship status and instead defining it yourself.

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This is me. Don’t I look happily single? 🙂
Newsflash.  Not so much. But I’m trying. 🙂

I’ve carried that stigma down from my mother. That you get your validation from your husband. No husband. No validation. 😦 I don’t want to be rescued by a male. Been there. Done that. I want to learn to soar all by myself. 

I have always believed in love and marriage. Being monogamous with my one and only. I’m a hopeless romantic.

Now I’m divorced. Marriage is no longer my way of life. Another stigma. Might as well tattoo a big red “D” across my forehead. 😦  Divorce carries such negative connotations. A failed marriage translates to unloveable in most circles.

I’m trying very diligently to be content with my life exactly where I’m at. To be complete. Whole being alone. I am working at changing some of the things within my power. Such as my job. Writing more. Savoring my girlfriend time. And I will continue to shower that love I want to share with another on my little friends in Building B at Jenks West Elementary, my own family and friends, and my readers.

Each and every day I get stronger. Every year I accomplish more goals on my own. Don’t let me fool you, I still wish for a happily ever after where I am loved totally by someone. But the timing just isn’t in the cards for me. Not now anyway. So I will remain happily single letting God provide the love I so desire.

That allows my life more time to concentrate on those things that are important to me. Without distractions. Free from anxieties. Most of the time.

I encourage all you single women out there to be happily single. 🙂 To not settle for anything but the best for your life. Watch as God provides exactly what you need exactly when you need it.

And if you ever have one of those days where you are feeling lonely, unloved, like a failure or depressed, I’m right here for you girlfriend!  Just holler and Starbucks here we come! And never forget.  So is Jesus.♡

I want you to be free from anxieties. the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.
1 Corinthians 7:32-35

Love and laughter,

Sandy

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One thought on “Happily Single

  1. it’s about time woman……you be happy within yourself and surround yourself with love if you found love once with a human that’s great if not than you find it with Jesus and he will fill your life with more love than you can handle and give you peace that you never knew you could enjoy!!! It’s been 11-1/2 years since Uncle Buddy went to live in heaven and the life we had could never be replaced with another human on this earth so Jesus is my man and between talking to Jesus and Uncle Buddy everyday my life is full of conversation with the loves of my life!

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